Tuesday, January 16, 2007

Masturbation Balance

I was chatting with one of the women I work with last night, and she mentioned she'd read my blog. She said, "I'm glad my boyfriend isn't totally into masturbation. I'd worry that he'd eventually be unable to have 'normal' sex."

Richard from Peter Files had touched upon this as well, when we chatted online during his interview the other night. He says, he can maintain an erection strong enough for masturbation, but not for intercourse (read the Peter Files Interview, if you missed yesterday's post...)

I'll admit: I have an attraction to compulsion, in others, to that sexy and scary and powerful, out-of-control state of mind that comes along with the territory, when dealing with anything that can become too pleasurable. That state of mind produces such a strong energy - perhaps a frenetic and mostly useless energy, useless if it's not harnessed and directed and controlled.

Masturbation is also so much EASIER than sex with a partner. Quicker, less complicated, less involved. Less fulfilling? Well that's up to the individual to decide. But the simplicity and self-indulgence CAN become addictive, and the masturbator who wants a well-rounded, full sex life, should take care not to become an exclusive masturbator, incapable of enjoying a sex act that involves another.

From a distance, I can take pleasure in the compulsiveness of your chronic masturbation. But closer to home, when dealing with my own sexual partner, would I prefer that he become a compulsive masturbator, to the exclusion of a sex life with me?

Noooooooooo way!!

So, in as much as your chronic masturbation is a part of who you are, I will enjoy it, and encourage it, and write about it and give you a place to feel "okay" about it.

But if you come to me one on one, seeking advice or an ear (and if you ask for an ear I will inevitably give you advice, I can't help it, I'm opinionated), and you are part of a couple, I will tell you that it is *very* important that your sexuality not be engulfed by your masturbatory activities.

If masturbation is truly your sexual activity of choice, see if you can find a way to pleasurably involve others. Do you like to be watched? Do you enjoy phone sex? In my assessment, anything you can do to involve a second (or third or fourth) in your sexual activities, will ward off the possibility that you will eventually evolve into a person who can enjoy sex ONLY with themselves, and by themselves.

And penises were meant for sharing, guys.

The Masturbatrix


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The Masturbatrix said...

Aw man, veteran Blogger users, can you tell me how to delete spam? LOL I can't figure it out.

Not-So-Technically-Inclined Masturbatrix

Mac said...

I agree with you Ally. I don't think there exists on this earth anyone who loves to masturbate more than I do. Am I an addicted, chronic masturbator? I suppose I am depending on whose definition you're using today. However, nothing takes the place of being deep inside a woman and feeling the warmth of her vagina surrounding you. Some masturbators would disagree. And to me, the giving of sexual pleasure to another person is the far greater pleasure of sex anyway. Now, having a woman who loves to masturbate and will do it with you is another huge turnon. All that being said, I still love to masturbate but not to the exclusion of my partner. Oh, by the way, it appears that you are having quite a few volunteers for interviews. Count me among them. This could be fun for all of us.

Powerscotch said...

I would say that, for me, there is no substitute for physical contact with another. No handjob can beat that (pardon the pun).

I wonder if Richard abstained from ejaculation for a month, would he be able to perform successful vaginal penetration and ejaculation inside his wife? Or are we presuming that chronic masturbation leads to permanently reset "triggers"?

Anonymous said...

>>I wonder if Richard abstained from ejaculation for a month, would he be able to perform successful vaginal penetration and ejaculation

Alas, no. I've tried that.

Anonymous said...

>>The Masturbatrix said... Aw man, veteran Blogger users, can you tell me how to delete spam? LOL I can't figure it out.

Actually, quite simple:

To prevent spam in the first place:

Go to Blogger Dashboard / Settings / Comments and turn on "Show word verification for comments?". That forces users to enter a blogger-supplied word nonce, and that pretty well screens out automatic spam. People can still post spam but it is manually intensive for them. If you want complete control you can also turn on "Enable comment moderation?" which means you manually approve each comment before it is posted. I have not seen a need to do this on my blogs.

To delete spam:
Go to Blogger Dashboard / Manage Posts. Then look for the "1 comment" link by a posting title. Click on that and you will see a tiny trashcan icon at the bottom of each comment.

Handyman said...

To me it's like tomatoes and apples. Good apples are available all year round like masturbation is. Good tomatoes are only available in the summer. Hot house ones aren't that good. I need to have my wife present to have sex which isn't always possible, like a tomato. Masturbation is always there like a good apple. Two different tastes with the same great outcome.

Anonymous said...

I've never viewed masturbation as something exclusive. I've been jerking off in one form or another since I was 6 or 7 years old (that's a story for an interview!). I've always included it in my love life--everything from mutual handjobs to giving jack-off shows and making videos for her to watch when I am going away from home for a while. I do like being watched! I do it alone though too, of course. I have for a long time been using "edging", getting close to orgasm many times but stopping just before, and I mean just before, orgasm. I think it has made me a better lover......
Thanks for your blog, it's a lot of fun!

gg said...

Thank you Ms.Ally for letting us guys feel compfortable with our compulsion. I'm sure we all wish we could stop. However, I do like entertaining women like you. In fact, I still want to entertain you. Ha!

Keith said...

Am I a chronic Masturbator, am I addicted to Masturabtion?
You decide, On average I masturbate 2-3 times a day, on occasion, I masturbate 6-8 times a day, I don't see it as a problem as I enjoy it, and it makes me feel good.
Places I have masturbated, in bed, shower, couch (with window open),
in my car (parked & while driving), at work (in bathroom).
I have been watched by a few female friends, one loves to watch me masturbate, she never takes her clothes off, or masturbates herself, she just likes to watch.
I will masturbate for anyone who wants to watch, provided you are female.
I also lick my pre-cum off my fingers, and at times have licked my hand clean of my hot cum.
Am I a chronic Masturbator?
If I am, who cares, I enjot it, and It makes me feel good.

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